Welcome to ‘Learning Tuesdays’, where we learn a particular skill or habit that will help you become a better you.
Today, we are going to be learning how to find your PURPOSE and live a better life.
Working previously as a palliative care worker, Bronnie Ware published her findings in a book called, ‘The Top Five Regrets of the Dying’.
The top five regrets of the dying include:
- Living to people’s expectations and not being true to yourself
- Working too hard
- Not having the courage to express your true feelings
- Not keeping in touch with your friends
- Not allowing yourself to feel happy
The top five regrets can be summed up with the main regret of living by people’s expectations and not being true to who you are, which can be prevented by finding your purpose.
Here are four steps that can help you determine your purpose to live a better life:
1. Find PURPOSE through ACCEPTANCE.
“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.” – J.K Rowling.
The first step in finding your purpose is to be able to accept yourself and your situation. Acceptance opens up the consciousness to the unconscious behaviours hindering us from achieving a better life. Not only does acceptance require humility, but it also requires the courage to cut through our social mask and face the truth of who we are.
Question: Have I accepted who I am as a person and my current circumstance?
2. Explore things that you LOVE to do and what comes NATURALLY to you.
“The true soldier fights not because he hates what is in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him.” – G.K. Chesterton
Jack Canfield explains that finding a purpose can be established by determining the things that you LOVE and determining the things that come NATURALLY to you.
Question: What are some things that I LOVE to do?
Question: What are some things that I do that comes NATURALLY to me?
3. Write an Obituary.
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” – Les Brown
Death can often be a wake-up call to someone living a mundane lifestyle. Beginning with the end in mind clarifies purpose and forges an identity.
Question: So what do you want to be remembered for at your funeral?
Activity: Write down your obituary and make it your mission to be the person that you are called to be.
4. Take action with the 4 steps developed by Kain Ramsey, the Life Coach and founder of Achology.com.
“Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often.” – Mark Twain
Step 1: Select one area in your life that you would really like to see better results and describe what this life area is currently looking like for you (i.e. the good, the bad, the positives and the negatives).
Step 2: Reflect: How has the quality of your thinking, emotions, habits or beliefs impacted the results that you’re currently getting in this life area right now?
Step 3: State exactly what you want to achieve in this specific life area.
Step 4: What’s the very first step that you must take TODAY to start getting closer towards what you WANT in this specific life area?
5. Check out ‘Get Your Gusto Back’ blog by Michael Blankenship which outlines 3 practical steps on how to get what you want in life.
The ‘Get Your Gusto Back’ blog was mentioned on Forbes, Entrepreneur and Addicted2Success.