Welcome to ‘Learning Tuesdays’, where we learn a particular skill or habit that will help you become a better you.
Today, we are going to be learning about 3 ways to become a better you through ACCEPTANCE.
1. Know yourself.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle
Knowing yourself is the first step to accepting yourself and becoming a better person. Acceptance opens up the consciousness to the unconscious behaviours hindering us from achieving a better life. Not only does acceptance require humility, but it also requires the courage to cut through our social media status and face the truth of who we are.
So how can you gain an accurate understanding of your own being? Completing a personality test, such as the Myers Briggs personality test and the Big Five Aspect Scale questionnaire, can help you gain a clearer picture of yourself.
A. Myers Briggs – The Myers Briggs personality test provides an in-depth description of your personality type based on how you interact with your surroundings, how you see and interpret information, how you cope with your emotions and make decisions, and how you approach work through planning and decision making. Click on the link below for basic description and a FREE Myers Briggs Personality test.
B. Big Five Aspect Scale – The Big Five Aspect Scale gives you a detailed understanding of your levels of extraversion, neuroticism, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and openness, and compares the results to a comparison group based on age, race, and sex.Click on the link below for the Big Five Aspect Scale. The test costs $9.95 AUD, but it is worth the investment if you want an individualised and accurate assessment based on the mentioned criteria.
2. Say the ‘Prayer of Serenity’ every day.
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.” – Reinhold Niebuhr.
The prayer of serenity echoes Aristotle’s quote of knowing oneself and wisdom. What makes the prayer of serenity so special? It has helped people battling alcohol, drugs and other addictions, and it is currently being used in Alcohol Anonymous groups as well as 12-step recovery programs.
Even if you don’t believe in God, prayer has been shown to have psychological benefits such as developing self-control, regulating emotions, and reducing anxiety and depression, which can be beneficial when accepting who you are as a person.
3. Be the star of your own story, not the side character.
“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” – Anne Frank
We are all called to be the star of our own story through experiencing setbacks and persevering towards a purpose, but so often we choose to enjoy the movie of another person rather than be the main character in our own lives.
Public speaking was an area of my life where I felt trapped as a side character, despite having a message I wanted to give to the world. My moment came when I said yes to giving a presentation in a youth group in 2007 and it amazed me that I was able to inspire and capture the attention of the audience.
By saying a simple yes in 2007, I was able to give my personal testimony at the Australian Catholic Youth Festival in front of 17,000 people in 2017. I felt like I was being transformed from a side character to the main character. It made me realise that life is to short to be a side character, so be the main character that you are called to be.
1. Which area in my life do I need to be the star?
2. What steps do I need to take to be the star in that area of my life?
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